Hey all – I am still on hiatus. And as a side result of this hiatus, a few things didn’t get updated and end result is that today tech support (my partner, Mike) found spam scripts on our server. While I don’t know if it has infected anything or just spoofed a billion people with my addy, I do feel like I need to tell people that come here on the regular to run whatever virus checks you run in these situations.
Lesson learned: update early your backend early, and update often.
Hey all – I am interrupting your hiatus to tell you about something super important to me: I published a book! After 10 years of research, writing, scrapping and rewriting, my book Divorcing a Real Witch is now available to the general public.
If you have ever experienced divorce – or were puzzled by Gwyneth Paltrow’s “conscious uncoupling” then you may find in this book some helpful explanations and shared experiences. Handparting is a Wiccan ritual that predates that new age term; even some Christian churches have end of vows ceremonies. Each one serves a specific emotional purpose. This is about using these rituals – and sharing experiences – as a way to take care of yourself during the weird, awkward time that is post-divorce.
I’ve had massive support along the way from Pagans and people from other religious groups and non-religious groups – I probably won’t heal the world but at least I did something.
If you want your very own copy, you can get it at Amazon or Barnes and Noble. You can also march into your favorite indie store and ask them pretty please to order it. It’s available at all major book distributors.
If you’re dying to read it but don’t want to freak out your spouse or grandparent, you can also get it on Kindle or Nook!
Fat Chic is going on hiatus indefinitely. I will, for the time being, leave up the blog so you may search it. I may even on some long weekend change the format to its earlier search-friendly version.
I have always been open that Fat Chic was a topic of passion for me but my career is elsewhere. Then Fat Chic went and almost became a career on me, before I was ready for it. Before I was even mentally prepared to think of myself as a hobbyist blogger. I come from the last of the old-school journalism community and while I adapted to the technology of the switch well enough, I can’t say I’m ever going to be 100% comfortable by the way business drives content – even businesses I genuinely like and recommend.
I am, however, leaving room for possibility on this. Perhaps one of my select, trusted guest posters will become impassioned. Perhaps I’ll get an offer I would genuinely consider.
For now, I leave you with Fat Chic Clothing Search. and best wishes. While I’ve been far more reticent than most fashion or fatshion bloggers I have truly enjoyed the people I’ve met and the people I’ve helped as the result of starting the blog.
It has taken me a decade to learn and appreciate the wisdom of Diane von Furstenberg: “Women are strong. We can do it all. But not always at the same time.”
Right now, there is another part of my all that must be doing.
For those of you who may not follow Fat Positive bloggers on Twitter, a new hashtag erupted last week. Admittedly co-opted from the #racistmicroaggressions tag, both explore the small, more subtle ways our culture and individuals within it express hatred and animosity towards fat people. From institutionalized abuse in the medical system to insulting “praise” at the gym, plus size men and women of all stripes tweeted their own direct experiences to the tag. You may see a lot of familiar things in this extended call-out … and yes, there were a few trolls.
There are not a lot of plus size fictional characters. No matter what character I am dressing up as I always strive to make versions of the costume that flatter my figure, often sacrificing accuracy in the process. But in making this Princess Fiona costume (from the 4th Shrek film, go rent it) I had the delightful experience of making a costume based on a character with a strikingly similar body type to my own. Plus I got to make and carry an axe- always a good time.