There aren’t a lot of fat positive Ted Talks. It was nice to see something that isn’t focused on making yourself perfect before you live your life.
For those of you who may not follow Fat Positive bloggers on Twitter, a new hashtag erupted last week. Admittedly co-opted from the #racistmicroaggressions tag, both explore the small, more subtle ways our culture and individuals within it express hatred and animosity towards fat people. From institutionalized abuse in the medical system to insulting “praise” at the gym, plus size men and women of all stripes tweeted their own direct experiences to the tag. You may see a lot of familiar things in this extended call-out … and yes, there were a few trolls.
- I Have No Clue How To Classify My Body Type(xojane.com)
- Fat Jokes In Children’s Movies Are A Lot More Common Than You Think(wonderfultips.wordpress.com)
- Stop bullying girls with big curves!(80yearsoflove.wordpress.com)
There are not a lot of plus size fictional characters. Â No matter what character I am dressing up as Â I always strive to make versions of the costume that flatter my figure, often sacrificing accuracy in the process. Â But in making this Princess Fiona costume (from the 4th Shrek film, go rent it) I had the delightful experience of making a costume based on a character with a strikingly similar body type to my own. Plus I got to make and carry an axe- always a good time.
- Shrek Costume Guide(birthdayinabox.com)
- Because It’s Cheating To Trick-Or-Treat As Yourself: Disney Princesses Dressed Up As Other Characters For Halloween(geekologie.com)
- Northview students rehearse ‘Shrek’(toledoblade.com)
Not very safe for work – lots of swear words. But great commentary.
Honestly, the Fit Mom â€œwhatâ€™s your excuseâ€ meme never reached me. First off, Iâ€™m not a mother. Iâ€™m just a random fat lady. Second, people were pretty good about dissecting how making people feel bad about their bodies does not motivate them to adopt a fitness lifestyleâ€¦ quite the opposite, as research has revealed. (Also, fitness does not always negate fatness. Look at what they do, not at how they look.) But when it came across my news feed that the â€œcontroversyâ€ Maria Kangâ€™s arrogance generated wound up making a record sales day for Curvy Girl Lingerie I had to laugh â€“ and share.
Thereâ€™s been a lot of â€œfat people are terrible,â€ and â€œtheyâ€™re destroying the world.â€ Except â€¦ we arenâ€™t. Most of us arenâ€™t even sitting on our butts eating bon bons. Weâ€™re just fat. Maria Kang went looking for someone to pick on â€“ and it backfired. Sheâ€™ll just have to comfort herself by kissing her abs and thinking superior thoughts by herself.
- ‘Fit Mom’ Versus ‘Curvy Girl’: Can You Really Tell What A Person’s Health Is By Looking At Their Size?(plus-model-mag.com)
- Maria Kang, Fitness-Obsessed Mom, Temporarily Banned From Facebook For Bashing Curvy Girl Lingerie Campaign(medicaldaily.com)
- Fit Mom Banned From Facebook for Fat-Shaming Is ‘Sorry Not Sorry’(jezebel.com)
The October issue of Elle magazine refers to Kate Upton as “Reubenesque.”
Kate Upton is not Reubenesque.
Now, obviously, on a blog named “Fat Chic” I am not opposed to fat people calling themselves fat. Words aren’t weapons when you take them out of the hands of people that use them that way. In the case of Elle, there’s definitely someone struggling with inner conflict at the helm and it comes out in bizarre bursts that I have criticized in the past. Let me help with that: that thing you think is crazy? That thing you’re told to accept because “that’s the way fashion is?” Yes, it’s absolutely insane. You are not the crazy one. Reality: fashion changes rapidly and all the time. Fashion can NOT change rapidly all the time AND have any situation be “just the way it is.” These concepts are mutually exclusive. Look at what fashion does, not the crap its denizens say. What it does is change often and lots. All else is nonsense.
Kate Upton has been falsely identified as fat before. This came from a person known for eating disorders. Whoever repeated it, look at the source and what the source does. Also, knowing art history would also help. I repeat my thesis:
Kate Upton is NOT Rubenesque. If you see her that way and you actually know who Rubens is, you probably have a personality disorder.
To make this clear, I’ve added visual aids:
Notice that Ruben would not have favored air brushing if it had been available to him.
- Kate Upton Actually Doesn’t Care If You Objectify Her, Or Something(thegloss.com)
- Drawings by Rubens(karenkupka.wordpress.com)
Sorry, I Don’t Want An “Amazing Transformation!”
Since the discovery that there were vast sums to be derived from making others feel inadequate, never has such high intelligence has been devoted to low self-esteem.
And never has technology had such effective tools to work with. Between CGI and Photoshop, women (and everybody else) have almost no access to unmediated images.
For example: when has Oprah EVER looked like one of her own magazine covers? It sickens moi when Oprah has those â€œempoweringâ€ title lines on her covers. â€œBe The Best You?â€ Then how about showing us the REAL You, Oprah? The woman who is overweight, with heavy arms. This is not meant as a criticism of Ms. Winfreyâ€™s physique. It is a criticism of Ms. Winfreyâ€™s holding herself out as an example. An example that is a LIE.
Ms. Winfrey believes that her bazillions of followers will not buy her magazines if Oprah Winfrey actually looks like Oprah Winfrey.
The mind boggles. In fact, it makes my head hurt if I think about this too much.
Larger lovelies are further marginalized not only by Oprah having herself halved in size, but also the eradication of any and all normal flaws in media images. We are so ceaselessly bombarded by smooth, creamy perfection at every turn that oneself cannot measure up. Even the perfect people are not perfect enough. In television and movies, no wrinkles, bulges, unsightly moles, body hair, bra lines, panty lines, a dress wrinkled in the waist and skirt from sitting downâ€”thanks to CGI, â€œall gone!â€ as a friend of mine says to her shiba inu when lunch is done.
What the photographers, fashion assistants and others share is that women do not shed their â€œbaby weightâ€ in any sort of phenomenal way.Â They get liposuction, tummy tucks, and get thisâ€”tightened vaginas.Â Which is now called â€œvaginal rejuvenation.â€Â As if the vagina needs Botox and a peel!
Before I write anything else, there is one item I must get off my ample chest: if I meet the people behind the Victoriaâ€™s Secret ad campaigns and catalogs, there would be blood on the streets. Even the gaunt Dachau victims that lurch down the runways during Fashion Week are more realistic than those pencils with false breasts. Victoriaâ€™s Secret has it allâ€¦One can feel bad about being skinny, flat-chested, large-chested, heavy, tall, shortâ€¦any woman that does not look like these bizarre hybrids. And the quality of their merchandise is far lower than their prices would indicate.
The name â€œVictoriaâ€™s Secretâ€ brings to mind the image of a young Victorian female, all plush curves and dimpled elbows. Beautiful lingerie enhancing the splendor of an actual human body. Sensual fabrics on sexual females. The hint of a double chin above a soft neck. Long hair spilled across a satin pillowcase.
Thousands of ads toting exercise machines, DVDs, pills, programs, all guaranteed to make you lose weight and keep it off. Sometimes I wonder:
a) Why have I never met anyone personally who underwent such a transformation?
b) If all of those hordes of â€œaftersâ€ are thin, how can there be any fat people left, logistically speaking?
You might think this is a â€œbeen there, done thatâ€ tirade. We have been there. We have done that. But never as completely. Never as unremittingly. Women are trained from the cradle to think of themselves as physically inadequate in some way. Heavy women even more so. Now, overweight isn’t only overweight, it is a crime against humanity. At least according to TMZ and their ilk.
Where are the role models for larger lovelies? Every time a heavy beauty has a career breakthroughâ€¦she sheds poundage. And since said beauty has always given publicity about â€œloving myself the way I amâ€, the frantic backtracking becomes comic to watch. â€œYes, I did love myself at that weight, but life can be enjoyed at any size!â€ THEN WHY DID YOU LOSE SIXTY POUNDS, BITCH? (Yes, Iâ€™m looking at you, Jennifer Hudson. I know there are others. But Iâ€™m looking at you.)
We are betrayed at every turn. America Ferrera started â€œUgly Bettyâ€ as a larger lovely, but grew progressively thinner as the showâ€™s run went on. Singer Jordin Sparks is Â´delightedÂ´ to have lost weight. Media websites love to run slideshows of â€œAmazing Transformations!â€
Thatâ€™s another peeve. You donâ€™t lose weight. You have â€œAn Amazing Transformation!â€ â€œComplete Body Makeover!â€ Good God, it makes me long for the days when the goal of losing weight was wellâ€¦losing weight. Buy a smaller bra. Wear pleats. Can we ever go back? If we’re going to make abortion illegal again, while we’re at it, can’t we go back to excess poundage not being a mortal sin?
Pardon the pun: Fat chance. My apologies if this rambles a bit, but I have low blood sugar. I am going to go eat a chocolate cupcake. In public.