Do a malware check, readers!

Hey all – I am still on hiatus. And as a side result of this hiatus, a few things didn’t get updated and end result is that today tech support (my partner, Mike) found spam scripts on our server. While I don’t know if it has infected anything or just spoofed a billion people with my addy, I do feel like I need to tell people that come here on the regular to run whatever virus checks you run in these situations.

Lesson learned: update early your backend early, and update often.

Do not subscribe OTHER people to Fat Chic mailing list

Do Not Want Cat - pink outfit

Just had two strange emails from the same person demanding to know WHO signed her up for what I’m assuming is the Fat Chic sales roundup mailing list. Since I can’t find a record of the email address in question, subscribed or not, ever, I’m not answering. The last thing I want is to engage someone who’s trolling – I have stuff to do, after all, and the next list installation isn’t likely to come out until next week.

On the off chance this is a simple case of someone who has simply been traumatized by the old-school way of doing mailing lists, where spammers grabbed every address posted anywhere, I’m going to explain a few things about our system here.

1)I use MailChimp. MailChimp is the anti-spam of mailing lists. There isn’t any of that “harvesting email addresses” stuff you’ve seen, nor do I buy lists. Which is why at the moment my sales roundup list is small – also, because I’m still working hard on getting affiliates that I believe my readers actually want to see offers from. It’s a tough road to balance. If most clothing retailers had their way, I’d post nothing but their latest sales, forever, as my blog posts. I just don’t think that makes for a fun blog. It also makes Pandas and Penguins Very Angry.

2)If you DO get signed up for the list, you receive a confirmation email making sure YOU subscribed to it. This way if you just typed in your email address on autopilot, you have an out. Hopefully no one else has access to your email and can’t just click that link for you.

3)I have no way of knowing whether it’s you signing yourself up or if someone else signed up for you. I track incoming IPs to this site, but I don’t use cookies or any of that other people-tracing stuff. It’s creepy, and honestly, I don’t have time to look at where my visitors are going. Fat Chic is still not the only thing I do all day.

4)Signing other people up for mailing lists can be well-intended or harassment-intended. It’s hard to tell, and I don’t see the specifics of your activity when you’re on this blog beyond what you click on. I have no way of knowing whether you decide to use your Aunt Gertrude’s email address in that mailing list form. Either way, it’s a bad thing to do. Especially for something like a plus-size clothing blog – I’m very fat and body positive, but your plus-size cousin who is struggling with her body issues might find being subscribed to this list as triggering and as bullying as the girls who left the Jenny Craig literature in her band folder back in high school. Don’t do that.

So please, ONLY sign yourself up for the mailing list. I’m still getting the hang of creating short missives you want to read that are in some ways different from the blog, and thank you for your patience, those who have opted to bear with me.

 

 

Do not abuse the Disqus comment system

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Every so often I get some “fashion advice” that is a combination of queen bee shittery and self-promotion. I refer you to my tagline: “It’s not about trying to look thin.” I got some today on a post from 2010, one labeled “recessionista.”  I’ve had problems with advice-as-bullying before – and for regular readers, you know what I think about female social violence. I will not tolerate another person trying to make me feel like shit. I had 20+ years of that from my own family, I’m not about to tolerate that from random people on the Internet.

As hard as it may be to fathom, plus size fashion is  not about being aesthetically pleasurable to YOU.  It’s about pleasing myself, especially given the extremely displeasing limited resources running around.

People who have legitimate comments and ideas know how to post them without the snide tones.  They also aren’t trying to use my comments forum to sell me things.

That shit will be blacklisted. So will butt-hurt whining – it’s not my job to help you confirm how you see yourself.

Just in case this was intended as genuine help (why?) and not as some “let me make you feel like crap so you can seek my approval and I can make you feel like crap some more,” stuff, here is a basic guideline to GOOD fashion advice. I am of the philosophy that less is more when it comes to fashion – What Not to Wear is one of the most appallingly abusive TV shows of all time to my mind. They don’t give a rat’s ass what their victim – er, “guest” actually does on a day-to-day basis

If you are determined to give fashion advice, always start with the following questions:

  1. Is this person seeking advice? Sometimes it’s simply showing what the clothing looks like on a fat person.
  2. What message is this person trying to send with his/her outfit?
  3. What kind of life does this person have? If you don’t know, then you really have no business offering advice – your best bet is to ask more questions. Even when I was  single, I wasn’t dressing to “catch a man” and I’m bewildered by the women I meet who still do. But pleasing men? So NOT why the Creator made me.

The fat-hate trolls are easy to spot and block, but these self-promoting, snide, out-of-touch with what fat positive actually is fashion trolls? Good Gods, do I need to turn society upside down and shake it by the ankles? These women are poison, and a sorrow to all of us trying to be supportive and decent in a world that’s hard on women no matter WHERE in the world you live.