There aren’t a lot of fat positive Ted Talks. It was nice to see something that isn’t focused on making yourself perfect before you live your life.
For those of you who may not follow Fat Positive bloggers on Twitter, a new hashtag erupted last week. Admittedly co-opted from the #racistmicroaggressions tag, both explore the small, more subtle ways our culture and individuals within it express hatred and animosity towards fat people. From institutionalized abuse in the medical system to insulting “praise” at the gym, plus size men and women of all stripes tweeted their own direct experiences to the tag. You may see a lot of familiar things in this extended call-out … and yes, there were a few trolls.
- I Have No Clue How To Classify My Body Type(xojane.com)
- Fat Jokes In Children’s Movies Are A Lot More Common Than You Think(wonderfultips.wordpress.com)
- Stop bullying girls with big curves!(80yearsoflove.wordpress.com)
There are not a lot of plus size fictional characters. Â No matter what character I am dressing up as Â I always strive to make versions of the costume that flatter my figure, often sacrificing accuracy in the process. Â But in making this Princess Fiona costume (from the 4th Shrek film, go rent it) I had the delightful experience of making a costume based on a character with a strikingly similar body type to my own. Plus I got to make and carry an axe- always a good time.
- Shrek Costume Guide(birthdayinabox.com)
- Because It’s Cheating To Trick-Or-Treat As Yourself: Disney Princesses Dressed Up As Other Characters For Halloween(geekologie.com)
- Northview students rehearse ‘Shrek’(toledoblade.com)
As a certain pop singer once said, “only god can judge ya”. That does not really stop the rest of us from tyring, though. Judging others is seen by many as rude or disrespectful. But have you ever really tried not to? I mean really?
A few years ago I took a class that included mindfulness exercises as part of the class work. One week I was tasked with writing down my judgmental thoughts for a whole week. I filled two pages by the end of the bus ride home from class. While the intent of the class was to stop me from being my own worst enemy by judging myself, I found myself fascinated at how often I judged others. Â I don’t consider myself the kind of woman who thinks she’s better than everyone else, but when I really started to pay attention to my thoughts I found that mine were filled with judgement about other people’s behavior, their children, their body odor, etc. I even spent a good day or two wondering if I was some sort of terrible person. Then I decided that since I was not acting on those judgements or giving them a voice, that I would use one of the other techniques I was learning and I let the thoughts go.
How long can you go without judging someone?
- Judgement, and why we do it(abnormallydesigned.wordpress.com)
Why would someone my age uses the cheapest cosmetic brands on the market?
Answer: because most of the time, they WORK.
As a kid, Wet & Wild seemed like a godsend right up until I tried my first lipstick from them. 99 cent lipsticks? Yes thank you. Then, after buying one at a Scott’s drugs, I faced my first real cosmetic letdown. It was horrifying – pure rough wax across my skin. My lips felt sticky and tasted like I’d chewed on a candle. A day later I had my first ever blackheads, all around my lips. I walked away believing the adage “you get what you pay for.”
Even so, the brand has endured – and improved. Their lipsticks now go on smoothly. I don’t experience dermal consequences after. The liquid liners tend to stay on. The waterproof mascara, while not as lash-enhancing as I’d like, does not run, ever. I’m only a little embarrassed to admit the cheap stuff is now part of my routine beauty arsenal.
As an added bonus, this US based company supports the nonprofit Dress for Success – and affordable beauty care is an important part of that, since many employers tend to be suspicious of women that eschew makeup.
Product from Wet and Wild I love:
These days I absolutely love their lipsticks.
Back in the day, Wet & Wild was it for truly low-cost cosmetics.
In recent years, E.L.F. entered the US market. That’s “Eyes, Lips, Face” for those unfamiliar with the acronym. Over the years, I’ve become the granola crunchers of makeup snobs. I prefer the natural. I even (shhh) make my own. But sometimes, as much fun as that is, I still consider the first time I open a new tube of lipstick or open an eye shadow compact thrilling. Perhaps it’s because my family had strict rules about makeup use. Perhaps it’s just that cosmetics are an externally applied alterative substance. That’s expensive. It takes money to get that high.
E.L.F. is cheap.
Unfortunately, E.L.F. is also made in China – and I discovered the brand right after the whole “lead in children’s toys” Target scandal and the “lead in almost every lipstick” scandal right before that. Even though my vanity is full of the stuff, I fear I’m painting myself in lead and about to go down like a lady of ancient Rome.
Even with that fear – hopefully irrational – E.L.F has a lot of my favorite go-to products.
I decided to risk it anyway when one of their multicolored eye palettes came up for sale over Christmas last year. It was just â€¦ gratifyingâ€¦ to buy one. I had always hoped to get more of that sort of thing in my stocking as a kid but really that only happened once or twice. So I indulged – because it was cheap, and easy. I still have a palette from 2011; the one this year is just so beautiful I have to restrain myself whenever I walk past it:
Buying the E.L.F. kit satisfied a childhood craving to have all the colors and thereby to have full access of all the knowledge about what the colors can do.
But the product I love from E.L.F?
The Mist and Set:
Of course, it doesn’t negate my paranoia about what all is in it… but it works really well. My makeup holds up all the way through water aerobics. (Only a concern when I have somewhere to be immediately after.)
But makeup trends changed – plus, I’m always nervous about the long-term effects of what I put on my face. After a visit to Ulta - a place I only discovered about two years ago – I found yet another cheap cosmetic source: Nyx Cosmetics. They are another US and LA based company, like Wet & Wild; they offer cruelty free cosmetics. They also apparently buck the cheap-seats trend in some ways because department store Nordstrom is among their distributors.
My first contact with Nyx involved two products: their lipstick and their cream eyeshadow.
I love the cream eyeshadow. The lipstick, however… it brought me right back to my first experience with Wet & Wild lipstick. I just avoid their lip products altogether.
However, the cream eyeshadow is one of my favorite makeup go-tos and I have, piece by piece, been buying up their full range of colors. It has strong pigment but it does dilute a bit as it spreads. I’ve been using Maybelline eye tattoo eye shadow as a base and then adding the Nyx over top; it works beautifully, fixing the color so it pops.
You may ask why the next tier up is not grouped in with these. Most, because to me they’re still a chunk. As a kid I always bought Maybelline – it was the best I could afford. I still love Maybelline, but I’ve also found L’Oreal, Sonia Kashuk and No 7 to all have great things – that are often beyond my limited budget. Seriously, the cost for cream blush is generally horrifying – thus E.L.F. stepping in is a relief (yes, I have tried and also like the Maybelline powder/gel blush, but it’s usually sold out!)
- Nyx Cosmetics for Those on a Budget(robbinstony11.wordpress.com)
- Current Beauty Obsessions: MAC & NYX Cosmetics…(chicavenuedaily.com)
- Review on Nyx Cosmetics(thegirlispoison.com)
- The Dirty Cosmetic Indusrty(christapepper.wordpress.com)
- My First E.L.F. Haul(loulou15081978.wordpress.com)
- Beauty Review: E.l.f(fashionbeautyandstyle.wordpress.com)
- Drugstore vs. High End(makeupbygigi.wordpress.com)
Not very safe for work – lots of swear words. But great commentary.
Honestly, the Fit Mom â€œwhatâ€™s your excuseâ€ meme never reached me. First off, Iâ€™m not a mother. Iâ€™m just a random fat lady. Second, people were pretty good about dissecting how making people feel bad about their bodies does not motivate them to adopt a fitness lifestyleâ€¦ quite the opposite, as research has revealed. (Also, fitness does not always negate fatness. Look at what they do, not at how they look.) But when it came across my news feed that the â€œcontroversyâ€ Maria Kangâ€™s arrogance generated wound up making a record sales day for Curvy Girl Lingerie I had to laugh â€“ and share.
Thereâ€™s been a lot of â€œfat people are terrible,â€ and â€œtheyâ€™re destroying the world.â€ Except â€¦ we arenâ€™t. Most of us arenâ€™t even sitting on our butts eating bon bons. Weâ€™re just fat. Maria Kang went looking for someone to pick on â€“ and it backfired. Sheâ€™ll just have to comfort herself by kissing her abs and thinking superior thoughts by herself.
- ‘Fit Mom’ Versus ‘Curvy Girl': Can You Really Tell What A Person’s Health Is By Looking At Their Size?(plus-model-mag.com)
- Maria Kang, Fitness-Obsessed Mom, Temporarily Banned From Facebook For Bashing Curvy Girl Lingerie Campaign(medicaldaily.com)
- Fit Mom Banned From Facebook for Fat-Shaming Is ‘Sorry Not Sorry’(jezebel.com)
Melissa McCarthy’s Old Navy ad is far less creepy than Lana del Ray’s Blue Velvet ad of last year and way less disturbing than the whole racist/misogynist mannequins situation. Even so, here and there I’ve seen a few people in the fatosphere objecting to it. McCarthy is dressed as a frumpy housewife; it looks like she is not wearing a single Old Navy product.
On the one hand, yes, she is gorgeous. On the other hand, McCarthy is a fantastic comic – there’s a reasonable chance she concocted the character she’s playing in the ad herself, just because she really likes playing characters.
Old Navy has been a bit weird about the messages it sends to all its customers, and the message it sends to its plus size customers are so weird that I suspect the entire corporateÂ board needs therapy and medication.Â On the one hand, they relegated all their plus sizes above a 20 to online only. On the other hand, they are one of the few stores that aren’t dedicated to plus sizes only that offer a decent selection of clothing. On the other hand, it’s 50/50 whether the fit or quality is good. Some of my longest lasting pieces have come from Old Navy. So have some of my biggest disappointments. At least, however, they make returns as easy as they can – as long as you supply your own packing tape.
It does raise the question: McCarthy would certainly fit in their plus size clothing – so why not take the opportunity to show her off in one of the cable knit dresses? Why are they so afraid that their straight size customers will bail on the brand if they see their plus size customers dressed well? When in history has this ever happened?
As for McCarthy – I guess I’d have to know what her input into the ad was.
- ‘Mike & Molly': Melissa McCarthy Squared Off Against An Exercise Ball And We All Won(stunningguidance.wordpress.com)
- 16 Women We’re Thankful For(refinery29.com)
- Million Dollar Baby Melissa McCarthy brings the funny for Old Navy’s Black …(adweek.com)
- Melissa McCarthy’s Maxi Coat is Better Than Yours…and Mine.(idiosyncracie.com)