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These days, itâ€™s all about the wrinkles. I am trying to stay ahead of the bastards, betraying my teenage self who sits in the background with her feet up telling me, â€œOh come on â€“ itâ€™s not like we donâ€™t know youâ€™re totally old. The jig is up, use your energy elsewhere!â€ My teenager self laughs when I flip her off and disappears as I begin slathering myself in one cream after another in my quest to keep the visible marks of my mortality at bay.
Enter Sente’ Dermal Repair Cream. Itâ€™s intended for your face â€“ and a bit pricey, retailing at $79 for 15 ml. Itâ€™s a price I expect more for those firming creams that make it look like youâ€™ve taken a Photoshop brush tool to your upper thighs. Itâ€™s even safe with makeup.
So Iâ€™ve been using it on my feet.
Actually, Iâ€™ve been using it on my face and feet, but mostly on the tops of my feet. Over the years Iâ€™ve protected my face and I still give it affectionate cleansing, exfoliation a few days a week and night moisturizers. The repair cream plays well with them â€“ no fresh zits, no irritation, my skin sucks it up quite happily. The odor is pleasant and minimal.
My feet, on the other hand, are sorely neglected. I have tan lines on the top so permanent that doctors ask me about the discoloration in hopes they can declare me diabetic and threaten to chop them off. (They look disappointed when tests demonstrate I am not diabetic and that the discoloration is from walking around outside with no socks on â€“ a lot and far.) My hands, while still mostly smooth, have visible varicose veins and one of them really wants to go 3-D on me.
After two weeks of irregular application to my feet and slightly more regular application to the backs of my hands:
the feet â€“ thereâ€™s still discoloration, but itâ€™s starting to fade. There are spots of my skin that are starting to appear their normal, bland, unbaked color.
the hands â€“ the suspicious varicose vein, while a bit puffy, is no longer puffing upwards when I type.Â It is remaining flat to my hand.
This is good stuff â€“ itâ€™s fixing some hardcore damage in some tough places to fix!
Those TV scenes where women go shopping together and have their big life conversations? I’ve only done that a few times. Sometimes I’m asked along for my discerning eye – and my tendency to shout “no” at certain prints as though I’ve been punched in the gut. But really, it’s not girl time for me.Â Girl time is what you do after you’re done shopping, and then it’s not “girl” time – it’s friend time. Because like most women, even married women, I have male friends in the mix too. So is shopping a true social activity for you?
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available from Maurices up to size 3x
available from Deb Shops up to size 3x.
Available from Target up to size 4x.
available from Torrid up to size 5x
From Torrid, up to 5x.
Now this is a graphic I would wear!
available from Igigi up to size 30/32
available from City Chic up to size 24
available from Modcloth up to 4x.
This is a Ralph Lauren dress. Available at Bloomingdales up to size 3x.
This is aubergine. Just saying “grab my aubergine coat dear,” amuses me. Say it with me. Aubergine. Aw-burr- gzheen.
Add a circle to the ankle on some ballet flats and they go from boring to elegant.
If you know anything about penguins and pebbles you understand why this sweater requires rhinestones.
available from Evans up to size 30/32 (UK)
Cozy but with a dress quality. Tempts me to use this sweater for things not intended when catalogs use words like “cable knit.”
available from NorthStyle up to size 3x.
This has everything to do with my love of vests:
available from Michael Kors up to size 3x.
LOVE the color peach. It’s like pink but better.
available from New Look up to size 26 (UK)
This is billed as a dress but looks more like a tunic to me – in colors I love.
available from x-two up to size 28.
As much fun as tight lingerie can be, I prefer the ability to move around. Thus the stretch lace long gown – see through for my partner, comfort for me.
Â Available from Hips and Curves up to size 5x.
For whatever strange reason, I’m warming up to cold shoulder looks. Maybe it’s all the T-shirt surgery I’ve been doing.
Available from Rainbow Shops up to size 2x.
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This tunic – the pocket is a nice, non-invasive add, too:
available from Just My Size up to 4x
Still a fan of a good crewneck sweater – it’s classic for a reason.
available from JC Penney up to size 3x.
This scroll print dress…. LOVE, SO MUCH!
available from Fashion to Figure up to size 3x.
This skirt from Talbots – the whole burnished print thing is a longstanding favorite look of mine:
available from Talbots up to size 24
available from Talbots up to size 3x
Zip skirts, like ankle zip pants, just make me bizarrely happy.
available from Ashley Stewart up to size 24
Then again, so does this ponte skirt from the same company:
available up to size 24
available from Avenue.com up to size 24
From Addition Elle, this awesome sequin dress:
available from Addition Elle up to size 4x.
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Sorry, I Don’t Want An “Amazing Transformation!”
Since the discovery that there were vast sums to be derived from making others feel inadequate, never has such high intelligence has been devoted to low self-esteem.
And never has technology had such effective tools to work with. Between CGI and Photoshop, women (and everybody else) have almost no access to unmediated images.
For example: when has Oprah EVER looked like one of her own magazine covers? It sickens moi when Oprah has those â€œempoweringâ€ title lines on her covers. â€œBe The Best You?â€ Then how about showing us the REAL You, Oprah? The woman who is overweight, with heavy arms. This is not meant as a criticism of Ms. Winfreyâ€™s physique. It is a criticism of Ms. Winfreyâ€™s holding herself out as an example. An example that is a LIE.
Ms. Winfrey believes that her bazillions of followers will not buy her magazines if Oprah Winfrey actually looks like Oprah Winfrey.
The mind boggles. In fact, it makes my head hurt if I think about this too much.
Larger lovelies are further marginalized not only by Oprah having herself halved in size, but also the eradication of any and all normal flaws in media images. We are so ceaselessly bombarded by smooth, creamy perfection at every turn that oneself cannot measure up. Even the perfect people are not perfect enough. In television and movies, no wrinkles, bulges, unsightly moles, body hair, bra lines, panty lines, a dress wrinkled in the waist and skirt from sitting downâ€”thanks to CGI, â€œall gone!â€ as a friend of mine says to her shiba inu when lunch is done.
What the photographers, fashion assistants and others share is that women do not shed their â€œbaby weightâ€ in any sort of phenomenal way.Â They get liposuction, tummy tucks, and get thisâ€”tightened vaginas.Â Which is now called â€œvaginal rejuvenation.â€Â As if the vagina needs Botox and a peel!
Before I write anything else, there is one item I must get off my ample chest: if I meet the people behind the Victoriaâ€™s Secret ad campaigns and catalogs, there would be blood on the streets. Even the gaunt Dachau victims that lurch down the runways during Fashion Week are more realistic than those pencils with false breasts. Victoriaâ€™s Secret has it allâ€¦One can feel bad about being skinny, flat-chested, large-chested, heavy, tall, shortâ€¦any woman that does not look like these bizarre hybrids. And the quality of their merchandise is far lower than their prices would indicate.
The name â€œVictoriaâ€™s Secretâ€ brings to mind the image of a young Victorian female, all plush curves and dimpled elbows. Beautiful lingerie enhancing the splendor of an actual human body. Sensual fabrics on sexual females. The hint of a double chin above a soft neck. Long hair spilled across a satin pillowcase.
Thousands of ads toting exercise machines, DVDs, pills, programs, all guaranteed to make you lose weight and keep it off. Sometimes I wonder:
a) Why have I never met anyone personally who underwent such a transformation?
b) If all of those hordes of â€œaftersâ€ are thin, how can there be any fat people left, logistically speaking?
You might think this is a â€œbeen there, done thatâ€ tirade. We have been there. We have done that. But never as completely. Never as unremittingly. Women are trained from the cradle to think of themselves as physically inadequate in some way. Heavy women even more so. Now, overweight isn’t only overweight, it is a crime against humanity. At least according to TMZ and their ilk.
Where are the role models for larger lovelies? Every time a heavy beauty has a career breakthroughâ€¦she sheds poundage. And since said beauty has always given publicity about â€œloving myself the way I amâ€, the frantic backtracking becomes comic to watch. â€œYes, I did love myself at that weight, but life can be enjoyed at any size!â€ THEN WHY DID YOU LOSE SIXTY POUNDS, BITCH? (Yes, Iâ€™m looking at you, Jennifer Hudson. I know there are others. But Iâ€™m looking at you.)
We are betrayed at every turn. America Ferrera started â€œUgly Bettyâ€ as a larger lovely, but grew progressively thinner as the showâ€™s run went on. Singer Jordin Sparks is Â´delightedÂ´ to have lost weight. Media websites love to run slideshows of â€œAmazing Transformations!â€
Thatâ€™s another peeve. You donâ€™t lose weight. You have â€œAn Amazing Transformation!â€ â€œComplete Body Makeover!â€ Good God, it makes me long for the days when the goal of losing weight was wellâ€¦losing weight. Buy a smaller bra. Wear pleats. Can we ever go back? If we’re going to make abortion illegal again, while we’re at it, can’t we go back to excess poundage not being a mortal sin?
Pardon the pun: Fat chance. My apologies if this rambles a bit, but I have low blood sugar. I am going to go eat a chocolate cupcake. In public.
Jump to the future, after a visit to Fast Eddie’s. The damage was significant. The price for repair – an astoundingly cheap $25 (for BOTH shoes.) So if you kill your shoes – take them to a shoe repair guy. It’s amazing how much more life you can get out of them!
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The good folks at Igigi requested I review some pieces from their 2013 line. Since I love Igigi – it definitely fits me when I’m in the mood for a classic look – I jumped at the opportunity. I selected the Belmont Skirt – the brocade pattern had me drooling. Ozlem also included the Tavi top to go with it, since it’s pictured like this on their site:
It’s also very, very warm. I love how warm the skirt is. My partner, Mike, is a big fan of the blouse. We were both thrown a little at first by the blouse – it has ruffling that you tuck on the inside. The shirt above is a little bit big for me – I’ve gained some muscle on top from weight lifting in water aerobics and Pilates – it has thinned my arms and reshaped my chest. (This does not happen to every person who does this exercise combination, it just happened to happen to me.) Looking at the photos now, I might do better to wear it with heels. I was having severe back pain and snow was in the forecast so I chose to go with the boots.
I love this and I plan to wear the skirt lots this winter – once I get my chiropractice issues straightened out I have the perfect Oxford booties to go with it and I can’t wait to see how it looks with this top from Igigi that I reviewed last year:
For winter style, I absolutely love it. It looks nice enough for theater but is comfortable enough to get up and dance – and I always need to wear clothing that lets me dance!
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The good folks at Modcloth asked me to style the coat with other Modcloth goodies- so, using Polyvore I structured this look. Obviously I’m over my matchy-matchy phase.